The travellers

Words of wisdom from yours truly:

If your boyfriend travels a lot (business or pleasure) then here's a couple things to remember

1. If you're the jealous type, I'm not condemning jealousy but IMO its a waste of time to be jealous. Jealousy isn't exactly a healthy feeling, but a little bit once in awhile is natural. Don't over-analyze things. If he looks like he's flirting with another girl you have a few options. (A) Tell him you don't appreciate him disregarding your feelings, or (B) Tell him not to take your trust for granted because you trust him not to do something stupid to jeopardize your relationship (like cheating).
2. Go with him on his trip if you have the time. I'm sure he would love to travel with you.
3. Establish the rules first. If he knows which boundaries he can't cross then you both know if he breaks/goes around the rules you are justified to be angry and tell him "I told you so" after. (The fact that he already knows he screwed up is adequate as well)
4. If he DOES do something stupid and you find out/he tells you, then you have a few choices to make. You can forgive him, be angry, fight/argue about it, or break up. It's really up to you what you decide you can't forgive.
5. Don't become one of those clingy, paranoid girlfriends who think he'll cheat on you every time he so much as even looks at another girl. No one likes one of those. We all have insecurities that maybe the boyfriend will cheat and break up with us, but if you establish that trust and communication at the beginning it won't be such a huge issue. He loves you. That DOES count for something. You have to give a little to get in return. The more you distrust him, the more he's likely to cheat on you

Friends ask me sometimes, how do you deal with your boyfriend travelling all the time? Don't you miss him? Aren't you afraid he's going to cheat on you?

Yes I miss him. Yes I am afraid he may cheat on me because really, we all know he could if he wanted to, never tell me and I'd never know the wiser, right? It's a risk I have to take because I trust he wouldn't do that to me. People say we're lucky to have this trust between us but its not as simple as it seems. It's hard to put all of your trust in someone else. There will always be a risk of getting hurt but are you brave enough to take that leap of faith? At the end of the day, I'm the one he calls, I'm the one he goes the extra mile for, and I'm the one he shows he loves. The reminders and little things count (keep that in mind guys) because it's what keeps me from doubting him.

Until next time,
M