A place not like home...

Here I am... I have about an hour before boarding my flight back to Toronto from Moncton. It has been a great week, and I do miss Toronto. Moncton is a great beautiful place for everyone except <40. It is extremly relaxed, with everyone having the time to greet you and meet you. No stress, no pressure, just good slow paced life. Nothing like Toronto/HK.

Word of advice for all the young engineers/young workers out there, get a travel job. You will live the life of "Up in the Air", sampling different beds at different days of the week depending on where you are, and lots of expensing. Thats right, expensing. The wonderful world of expensing. Of the 52 weeks of work available to be had at the office, I spend about 17 of them travelling all over Canada. From Vancouver, Victoria, Kelowna, Abbotsford, Calgary, Edmonton, Saskatoon, Regina, Winnipeg, Toronto, London, Hamilton, Kitchener, Ottawa, St.Johns, Moncton, Halifax... yup, I've done them all. Travelled, met some great people, tasted the local wines/entertainment, and experienced some of the coolest events going on around the country. You name it, Kayaking, ziplining, rave concerts, strip clubs, etc. Theres always something to be discovered in each city, no matter where you go. Its always the people, the people that you go with that makes the experience so exhilerating, so exciting, so different than Toronto life. Everyone will always ask, "whats the difference, we can do all that in Toronto". Mostly its true, but when do we ever have the time to stop what we are doing from our everyday 9-5 and actually enjoy the lifestyle that Canada has to offer? When do you actually have time to enjoy the money you earned? After 3-4 years of work, I realize that the only time you do have the chance is if you just simply disconnect from the 9-5. Get a travel Job. Go. Enjoy the life outside of home, enjoy sleeping in different beds 5 days a week, enjoy meeting new people, new experiences. Enjoy Canada.

Theres so many people that travel that don't do anything different. The ones that go back to their hotels after work, the ones that just do nothing. What a waste of time and company money. Get out there and enjoy life. Theres no better time and place than that of the wonderful world of expensing. You can drive a car all paid for, a hotel all paid for, and eating whatever you want, and do whatever you feel at a foreign place... BEST of all , you get PAID. What more is there to life than that? How can a single person NOT enjoy travelling?

So here is my first post on the couples blog, where should I start? Usually its always at the beginning from how I met this lady, what I thought about her, etc..

But instead, I feel that this blog should be dedicated to the “bettering” or simply giving some tips/advice on relationships/partnership, or perhaps just some observations on the process of growing up. This is something that most PUA/game gambits won’t go over, as its justified that it is not part of their scope. So here goes, the first blog:

The feeling of “ Everything will change once xyz happens…”.

Ever heard of the familiar saying from your friends,whatever..
“Everything will change once I enter University…”
“My life will change once I get more money…”
“My life will change once I get a gf/bf…”
Etc.

Here’s some advice, nothing will change. Period. It is all a matter of how you change yourself to fit the environment. It is and never will be the other way around. Anything life changing will always be the combination of perseverance, hard work, and commitment. There’s no other way about it. I’ve known way too many people that think that by doing xyz something will change, but in fact once they are in the situation they realize its still the same shit. Going to the same clubs, doing the same things on Friday night, with the same people, yadda yadda. They will always hope something will happen, but it won’t. Instead, all they do is wait and wait … and in the end they have wasted a lot of time and effort simply mental masturbating. Truth is, it takes a strong, conscious effort to actually change something about yourself. Personalities can change, but characters do not.

Same goes for relationships. I actually feel wary when couples tell me they don’t argue. Sure, arguing can be a really bad thing, but at the end of the day its just heated communication. Communication will always be the thing that keeps couples together. Whether the guy/girl is ugly, not enough money. Etc. The only one thing that keeps the bond solid between couples will be the communication portion. Sometimes the other partner will be hesitate to give out communication, but its up to you as part of a couple of figure out what exactly is the issue, and actually talk about it with the other person. The responsibility are on both sides to upkeep. Change is good. Know what kills a relationship? Routines. Endless fucking routines. Dinner, shopping, movie, sex. Everything can become a routine, but its comfortable though. So in short, change it up. Mix it up. Spice it up!

Easter Weekend 2010: Big Apple & Wine Tasting

Exactly as it says in the title of this post. That's what we did this past easter weekend.

The lover and I went on a relaxing (for me) cruise. Yes, I did in fact, successfully bother the sanity out of him through out the approximate 2 hour drive to Belleville and when we finally arrived to the Big Apple factory, I think he was relieved to be able to get out of the car and get some breathing space from me (bwahahaha).

We bought two apple pies, one for each of our families, and left, to go visit a winery. One was open, the Casa-Dea Winery & Estates and picked up a bottle of CD Bianco which was quite lovely.

Unfortunately, no other wineries were open :( so we ended our trip a little early and stopped by the Ajax Downs casino on our way home. It was my first time playing the slots and we won enough money for our dinner or lunch the next day! Yay!


Apparently V doesn't win that much when he goes at other times, so I guess its a sign. I'm his luck charm. Yup yup. He doesn't believe it though.
Sunday, we went for a run/ride (i cycled while he ran ... Wahahahah) made easter dinner for his family, and gosh, did we make a lot of food. We had garlic bread, shrimp alfredo pasta, mussels steamed in white wine, clam-stuffed mushrooms, and the apple pie for dessert. It was definitely one of our best dinners to-date.

Ending the weekend off with mahjong .. I am sad to report that I didn't win :( and V did ... a few times. Pft. IT'S OKAY THOUGH! I will redeem myself during out next mahjong episode.

Until next time! Stay tuned for further adventures. :)