So here is my first post on the couples blog, where should I start? Usually its always at the beginning from how I met this lady, what I thought about her, etc..

But instead, I feel that this blog should be dedicated to the “bettering” or simply giving some tips/advice on relationships/partnership, or perhaps just some observations on the process of growing up. This is something that most PUA/game gambits won’t go over, as its justified that it is not part of their scope. So here goes, the first blog:

The feeling of “ Everything will change once xyz happens…”.

Ever heard of the familiar saying from your friends,whatever..
“Everything will change once I enter University…”
“My life will change once I get more money…”
“My life will change once I get a gf/bf…”
Etc.

Here’s some advice, nothing will change. Period. It is all a matter of how you change yourself to fit the environment. It is and never will be the other way around. Anything life changing will always be the combination of perseverance, hard work, and commitment. There’s no other way about it. I’ve known way too many people that think that by doing xyz something will change, but in fact once they are in the situation they realize its still the same shit. Going to the same clubs, doing the same things on Friday night, with the same people, yadda yadda. They will always hope something will happen, but it won’t. Instead, all they do is wait and wait … and in the end they have wasted a lot of time and effort simply mental masturbating. Truth is, it takes a strong, conscious effort to actually change something about yourself. Personalities can change, but characters do not.

Same goes for relationships. I actually feel wary when couples tell me they don’t argue. Sure, arguing can be a really bad thing, but at the end of the day its just heated communication. Communication will always be the thing that keeps couples together. Whether the guy/girl is ugly, not enough money. Etc. The only one thing that keeps the bond solid between couples will be the communication portion. Sometimes the other partner will be hesitate to give out communication, but its up to you as part of a couple of figure out what exactly is the issue, and actually talk about it with the other person. The responsibility are on both sides to upkeep. Change is good. Know what kills a relationship? Routines. Endless fucking routines. Dinner, shopping, movie, sex. Everything can become a routine, but its comfortable though. So in short, change it up. Mix it up. Spice it up!